What People Are Saying
Sandy and I do our very best to raise our kids to live with integrity, power in the world and openness to what is possible. The core values we try to instill in Julian and Ariana are compromised every time we deny who Sandy and I are to each other and every time we diminish what we mean to each other. We will no longer participate in the government’s erasure of our relationship and our marriage. We want our kids to grow up with the courage to step out and step up, even if it is difficult or risky. For us, refusing to lie on our taxes is a straightforward, and pretty minor way to demonstrate that courage ourselves.
As a lawyer and a legal advocate for the LGBT community, I am often in a position to advise people to exercise great caution and to comply in most cases with the letter of the law, even when that means denying who we are. This is my small way of saying, where we can, we are not going to play the game anymore.
i think it's time for there to be a tax revolt among the gay community.
I have always lived with so much pride to be American and live here. To seek higher education and work as a professional here, in America. DOMA makes me question my sense of pride and wonder if it truly is the land of the free.
I have been married to a great man since October 2005, and each year on my taxes I file as married filing separately. I refuse to lie.
My wife and I are a bi-national couple, meaning that I am a US citizen and she is a citizen of a different country (UK). We legally married in Canada in 2006 and we are considered married under California law, yet we cannot live together because DOMA prevents me from being allowed to sponsor Claire. She is a “non-resident alien.” Under federal law (DOMA), we are strangers. Even though I worked in taxes for 20 years prior to my disability retirement, I was completely flummoxed as to how to file. I, finally, one week before our tax returns were due, contacted a preparer to help me. DOMA is costly and blatantly discriminatory. I pay my taxes, even when the laws don’t make sense and hurt me. We finally got my returns mailed by the deadline, but I was made even more keenly aware how “second-class” committed gay couples are treated, yet the government is able to take more in taxes from us than from married straight couples. We are funding our own discrimination!
It's demeaning that my gov makes me file as "single" after 14 years
My husband and I travelled to DC to get legally married. We are financially dependent on each other. It is ridiculous that we have to lie on our tax returns just so we don't violate the archaic law called DOMA.
Refuse to lie
I was married shortly before retiring from the Army. You're telling me after 11 year of defending the rights to be free I'm allowed to be freely married only if it's with the sex of your choosing? Ok I'm off to look up the definition of "free"
being a couple since 04/1990 we are still filing single and not treated as other couples
George and Stephen
Married is married. If you are legally married, you should get all the rights any other married citizen has, period. Treating same sex marriages as different than heterosexual ones is discrimination.