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Kate Kendall

Sandy and I do our very best to raise our kids to live with integrity, power in the world and openness to what is possible. The core values we try to instill in Julian and Ariana are compromised every time we deny who Sandy and I are to each other and every time we diminish what we mean to each other. We will no longer participate in the government’s erasure of our relationship and our marriage. We want our kids to grow up with the courage to step out and step up, even if it is difficult or risky. For us, refusing to lie on our taxes is a straightforward, and pretty minor way to demonstrate that courage ourselves.

As a lawyer and a legal advocate for the LGBT community, I am often in a position to advise people to exercise great caution and to comply in most cases with the letter of the law, even when that means denying who we are. This is my small way of saying, where we can, we are not going to play the game anymore.

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Please Read this: http://mrlousart.com/MLA/POL/DOIFlash.asp

We are about to to prosecuted by Our IRS for refusing to file - And having thus filed - married jointly since 2005 - file single...

Any help is appreciated!

Cliff and Lou



I believe that marriage is a union between to people who'll willfully proclaim to their other "to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part."

If you love some one this much, the legality of it is null. Mirage is just and right for all to love, no mater what.

Not in a same sex mirage, however my wife and I agree that you love who you love and should not have to deal with discrimination from your government.

If there is something I can do to help. aside from signing on here, please let us know.

Bruce



This is the best slogan I have heard in years. I have been with my spouse for 29 years and recently have been questioning my employer about the FMLA policies within the corporation. I was surprised to find that so may people in upper management had no idea of how discriminating the current policies area against gay or straight unmarried couples because the term Care Taker is defined as married couples. Even if I was married I would have to lie on my legal work documents because the state of Florida does not recognize same sex marriage.I was pleasantly surprised that my supervisors agree that the laws and policies need to be change. All employees of any company should have equal benefits and rights across the board. I will definitely keep all of you posted as this unfolds. I am not going to mention who my employer is at this time for I feel that this issue has been brought up and I need to give them an opportunity to see into this. At this this time my spouse and I am not married and this is due to the fact that he feels there is no value in a marriage when we live in the state of Florida. This is why I am becoming a voice; to bring value, purpose ans security to all people.

Eddie



16 YEARS TOGETHER..We were maui'd 1996 ..Domestic Partners in CA..Married Legally in 08-08-08..with 18,000 other CA couples..STILL LEGALLY MARRIED....NEED LEGALLY MARRIED TAX EXEMPTIONS...AMONG DOMA..ENDING...

Debbie



We were maui'd 1996 ..Domestic Partners in CA..Married Legally in 08-08-08..with 18,000 other CA couples..STILL LEGALLY MARRIED....NEED LEGALLY MARRIED TAX EXEMPTIONS...AMONG DOMA..ENDING...

Debbie



After almost 6 years together, my wife and I legally married in New Hampshire this past July. It was everything we could have ever dreamed of ... and then we headed back home to Florida. Being a newlywed is supposed to be a joyous time in your life, but it has been one headache after another for us. That said, I find taxes to be especially infuriating. We cannot file our taxes as married, because due to DOMA, the federal government does not recognize our marriage. That means we have to file our taxes as single. To add insult to injury, we have to sign our name on the dotted line right above the text that says under penalty of perjury, I declare that everything on this document is true and correct to the best of my knowledge. Everything is NOT correct. I am a legally married woman. Why should I have to lie on my taxes?! Why should I have to deny my marriage? It feels so degrading.

Kaleigh



I just watched your video on Tedx. I got emotional. I'm also gay and my partner is living in SF, California. I can't imagine my life without him.
But by living here in Pakistan and where we don't have freedom even to come out. I just go crazy. It is heart breaking. So I can't put my feeling in words. I wish we could have the freedom. A place where we could walk by holding hand.

Ali



We are in a double bind. I am not sure how we could be prosecuted for answering honestly. Then there is the issue that their is no Constitutional basis for the Federal Government not to recognize a marriage legally performed by a state. Clearly marriage is a matter reserved to the states in the Constitution.

Robert



Your ansewr was just what I needed. It's made my day!

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It's about time soomene wrote about this.

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